The thinking behind the work
The method I use, the research it stands on, articles on the questions clients bring me, and conversations I’ve had on other people’s podcasts. Free to read. No sign-up.
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The Two Compasses
The method in one page: two compasses, the voice in your head, the ontological roots, and the loop that turns a picture of where you want to go into steps you take.
Why it works: the research
The studies behind each part of the method, including ontological coaching and how sessions are structured, what coaching is worth, and the limits of what we know.
Articles
Where you might be
Successful but unfulfilled: why it happens and what helps
When a life that works doesn’t feel like yours, the mood underneath it, and a way back.
9 min read
I know what I want to change. Why haven’t I started?
The emotions and stories underneath, and how to create the conditions for a first step.
10 min read
How to figure out what you want when you no longer know
Small experiments, body signals, and why knowing comes after doing.
10 min read
Burnout or the wrong mountain?
Five questions to tell exhaustion from a life heading the wrong way, and what to do first.
9 min read
What gets in the way
What will people think?
How the fear of judgement keeps successful people stuck, and how to check it.
9 min read
Who am I without my title?
Identity, roles and changing direction without losing yourself.
9 min read
Your head is a narrator: how to stop overthinking a big decision
Catch the story, check it, choose a better one, and test it.
9 min read
The 12-month question
Regret, waiting, and seeing what nothing changing really costs.
8 min read
About coaching
Does coaching work?
What randomised trials say, what drives results, and what the ROI figures can and can’t tell you.
10 min read
How to choose a coach
What predicts results, what to ask in a first conversation, and coaching versus therapy.
9 min read
Why coaching outdoors works
Walking, nature, breath and a view from higher up.
9 min read
Coaching in Slovenia, in English
What to expect: languages, in person or by video, accreditation and how to start.
7 min read
Conversations
Podcasts and talks where I’ve been a guest.
Books I recommend
- The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin. A music producer on how to notice what’s in you, trust it and make something of it.
- The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer. What happened when he stopped steering his life by preference and said yes to what came.
- Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett. Why naming your emotions precisely changes what you can do with them.
- The Alter Ego Effect by Todd Herman. How athletes and leaders use a chosen identity to act with courage when it counts.
- So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport. Why getting very good at something often matters more than finding your passion first.
- The Courage to Be Disliked and The Courage to Be Happy by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. Two conversations about freedom from other people’s approval, and what to do with it.
- Chop Wood Carry Water by Joshua Medcalf. A short story about loving the daily work more than the result.
- Open by Andre Agassi. A champion’s honest memoir about winning at something he didn’t choose.
- The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter. Why hard, uncomfortable experiences make us stronger, and where the modern misogi comes from.
- No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. On people-pleasing, and how to stop living for other people’s approval.